Cybher conference: innovative and inspirational

On Saturday I spoke at Cybher, the UK’s first all inclusive blogging conference for women.  I met Sian To, the organiser, last year and have kept in touch on and off via Twitter and email throughout the year.  In that time she has been kind enough to lend me her brain to pick when I was creating Eroticon and asked me to speak on a panel about sex blogging for her, I’d like to think we’re friends, but I’m still learning about her and from her and I hope that continues for a long time.

I’ve been to several conferences in 2011 and Cybher was far above any of them in terms of content, how it was delivered and all round quality and attention to detail.  At various conferences last year I felt I was PR fodder or that I was sitting through sessions that were extended adverts for someone’s business. I want to go to conferences and learn,  be inspired and even if the content is familiar to me have it reaffirm my ideas and inspire me forward.

I want a conference to be challenging, inspiring and fun in equal measure.  It’s a lot to ask but not too much to expect, Sian and her team pulled it off.  Cybher felt relevant, contemporary and current.  There were some glitches and parts where my interest or energy waned but they didn’t overwhelm my positive experience of the day.

Here is my day in Thank Yous:

Thank you to Annie at Love All Blogs for asking me the question:

“I worry that if I write about sex then I’ll just be adding to the exploitative sex industry” (or words to that effect)

I understand where she’s coming from here, but if you don’t have authentic voices that represent themselves talking about sex then you’re leaving the field open to the traditional voices that will portray the sex they want and approve of and not the sex you have.  My blog and my work setting up Eroticon is a part of the sex industry, I am not willing to let other people I don’t respect speak for me on this or any other matter.

Thank you to Sam and Leanne at The High Tea Cast for making podcasting seem dazzlingly easy.  It made me want to get to grips with podcasting, but it also made me want a Mac so I could have the “pretty” sound editing programme not boring old Audacity.  A related thank you to Ryan Duggins for being a good sport –  you can find out why here.

Thank you to Mario from Someone Once Told Me.  You’ll have to wait and see the quote I chose for my SOTMpic.

Thank you to Cathy Presland for letting me ask so many questions.

Thank you to Lori Smith for sharing the stage with me and for letting me ramble on, sorry if I got a bit carried away.

Thank you to everyone that came to the erotic blogging session and talked to me throughout the day.  What I long to read are blogs that spoke about every part of a person’s life, including sex and sexuality.  I’m going to try over on my personal blog to speak more openly and lead by example.

Finally, thank you to Sian and her team, Cybher made me want to do more, better.

To read more about the day and the experiences that other people had head over to the conference site and browse through the blogs in the post conference link up.



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5 Responses to Cybher conference: innovative and inspirational

  1. Mammasaurus May 14, 2012 at 10:02 pm #

    You were great to be sat listening to, really informative and opened my mind to things I hadn’t thought of before. And thanks so much for taking the time to talk me through things – I have decided to start my own now so you really did work wonders!

    Gotta love the McSexy!

  2. Claire @ Bad Fiction May 14, 2012 at 10:25 pm #

    Your second paragraph is ace. It what we – Sian and the Cybher team – were really hoping for. Lot’s of content, less tat and lots of reaffirmation.

    Im really looking forward to seeing us all do our thing on SOTM – Mario had a great day too!

    Claire @ Cybher

  3. Claire @ Bad Fiction May 14, 2012 at 10:26 pm #

    FFS! How could I forget to say thanks for the tattoo…… jesus!!! :D
    Ohhh and thanks for the buzz too …. looking forward to that!!!

    • Ruby May 15, 2012 at 9:42 am #

      Wait a second! I tried for ooooo a whole second to talk them out of the tattoo and then, well then I was just laughing too hard.

  4. Nickie May 15, 2012 at 12:11 am #

    Fab session, fab day, fab YOU ;) Thanks for everything x