Here we go again… Eroticon 2015 meet and greet

T’DA! Tis Eroticon time again and thank goodness Molly finally took the hint and did the meet and greet this year. NAME (and Twitter name if you have one) Ruby Kiddell @eroticnotebook but of course @writesexright too Is this your first time at Eroticon? If No, what is your favourite memory from a previous Eroticon and if Yes, what are you most looking forward to at Eroticon 2015? I’ve been to every single Eroticon – which is just as well seeing as I’m the organiser. There are so many favourite moments, but every year it is always the moment I get up onto the stage to welcome everyone to the event; the feeling in the room is a mixture of excitement, nerves and energy. Always an incredibly humbling and overwhelming moment for me. Which 3 sessions have you already earmarked as definitely going to? I think the opening panel will be very interesting, discussing as it does the state of erotic publishing at the moment. Other than my own session I’m not quite sure where I’ll be this year. Possibly some of the creative sessions and writing sessions – I’ve felt un-creative with words for far too long. What drink will you be ordering at the bar on the Saturday night? After the first glass of fizz, probably a long drink – gin or vodka and tonic. Though if anyone bought me a French 75 I certainly wouldn’t be rude enough to decline. If you wrote an autobiography what would it be called? Oh goodness, I have no clue. I’m renaming my personal blog “The Squeeze” (probably) so that’ll have... read more


Sometimes a promise starts with the smallest touch. Does it matter if the promise is ill-defined, no more than a hint of a hope. The hand in the small of your back as you squeeze past each other in a small space. Their palm covering your foot as  you tuck your bare feet up on the sofa. Gentle, tempting invitations to a possibility. Sometimes the touch of possibility is all it takes. Thanks for reading, Ruby x If you enjoyed my writing you can find more of my erotic fiction stories on and, don't be shy leave a... read more


Love is, hard. Feelings in general are tricky, but the big ones like love, anger, hope and frustration – well what are we supposed to do with them? The person or event that triggered them may well be gone but the emotion is still there and all you can really do is wait. Wait through the slow half-life of emotional fade studded with the inevitable inconvenient spike of like-yesterday pain. Maybe putting the emotions in a box or behind a wall will help, but they’re still there and at some point they need to be dealt with, but how? Or maybe just wait. Wait for past love to be nothing but a shadow, wait until you don’t remember and think that perhaps it was a mirage, a possibility that you conjured from hope sprinkled with glittering, impossible promises. So dig out the soundtrack and wallow, test the place where you used to be able to push your fingers through the tear in your heart. How has it healed? Is it still bruised? Is there a scar? Or, perhaps it has mended? And the question I’m left with is; “Is this it? Is this what love was supposed to be?” Thanks for reading, Ruby x If you enjoyed my writing you can find more of my erotic fiction stories on and, don't be shy leave a... read more

Stealing – still not sexy! More on copyright infringement

Following on from last night’s post about the illegal use of my images I thought I’d share with you the email exchange that I had with the culprit. What pisses me off here is the sheer brass balls of the denial along with the rudeness of it.  I couldn’t give a toss if she’s heard of me or not, there are a lot of people writing erotica and sex, what annoys me is the lie that she created the overall image from stock photography and that she’d put the black borders on it. If you have a look at the infographic I posted yesterday it is easy enough to see that she just cropped out my name on the top of the image and squeezed in her copy below it – and she couldn’t even be bothered to match the font (Josefin Slab if you’re wondering) So here you go, the denial and my, response. Response to my request via comments that she take down the image> I think you are referring to the picture that says BDSM IS My Normal. I actually found the picture of the woman with her hands tied behind her back on a royalty free site using msn search. I put the picture together with the wording on a black background. Now, as far as copyrights. I checked Google image search, along with a few other search engines and found no references to there being any violations. The cover on your book is the same picture of the woman’s body, but that is all. I have never actually even heard of you, nor read... read more

Copyright infringement is never cool especially when it’s my arse you’re infringing

I had hoped to get back to blogging with something more jolly, or at least more filthy, than this blog post, but instead I’m talking about copyright infringement of my arse. I was checking out tumblr today and spotted an image that was very familiar. Familiar because it was an image of me, well, my arse. It was the image I created for the original publication of my ebook Normal, when it was republished with Burning Book Press we went back to the original image and created a new cover. But that image, my image, of me, is something I’m proud of.  I was taken aback to see it doctored to be an inspirational type quote image and even more taken aback that the person who had done it had added their name and URL to the image and then syndicated it across tumblr and Pinterest as well as hosting it on their blog. With a little digging I found the post on the blog and downloaded it – you know what – that image was taken directly from my website – I know this because the image uploads have exactly the same name and the image was created in 2013 – after the book cover had been switched to the new version with the new publisher. So the image is under copyright and IP protection. See for yourself… If you see the “BDSM is my Normal” image, please don’t reshare it, please delete it or report it. Please do share and reblog this post. I work hard on my writing and my images and to support the sex... read more

Eroticon 2014: girl snogs, bottoms and VIPs

It has been nearly two weeks since Eroticon 2014, so how was it for me? Well it was pretty fucking awesome and as ever that is probably for different reasons than for anyone else. What is true for me as it is for many others is that it is always, always a much needed event to meet up with friends we see all too seldom in person as well as making new friends and opening up new possibilities both personally and professionally. As with every year I am personally humbled that so many amazing writers, artists and creators agreed to come and share their experiences and knowledge so generously to inspire their peers. And yes, I’m humbled that people continue to hand over their hard earned cash for tickets to my lil smut conference but at the same time I work damned hard to make sure they get an amazing experience that just doesn’t happen anywhere else. This year was fantastic in that over half the attendees were new to the event, which demonstrates that, although there were some friends we were missing, the conference continues to be relevant, needed and appeal to a broadening audience. Being back in Bristol was fabulous too, as much as I love London and I loved the venue in London as a space, it wasn’t the right home for the conference and the warm, easy welcome we got at Armada House confirmed that there is something special about that space for the event.  There were some IT issues, but nothing that can’t be overcome with some extra planning next time. It was good... read more

How boudoir photography helped me define myself

Six  years ago I had a boudoir photography shoot with Matt Christie and it helped to change my life. At the time, I booked the shoot to boost my self esteem and to make a present for my husband, it did both but when I started writing erotica and using the name Ruby Kiddell those photos became integral to me and helped shape my identity. For a very long time I used a crop of the photo below as my Twitter avi – the legs became Ruby and folk would complain if I changed the picture for anything else. Even now the headshot I use is a crop of one of Matt’s photos I love the photos that Matt took for so many reasons – they were taken just before I fell pregnant so they mark a moment in time, a closing of one part of my life before I became a mama. They showed me in a way that I had only ever seen myself in my head – I wanted to look glamorous and sexy but never quite saw myself as that and so to have the photographic evidence helped me to realise a part of myself I’d been struggling to express.  When I started to write erotica as Ruby Kiddell I knew exactly who Ruby was, she was the woman in the photographs that Matt had captured and helped to create. I can’t promise that boudoir photography will change your life but it is a wonderful opportunity to explore a different part of your personality – to be playful, dominant, seductive or demure – and Matt... read more

Elust 54

Photo courtesy of Gritty Woman Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #55? Start with the rules, come back February 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~   How children will break UK Internet filters. Submissive, Not Passive When Sex and Disabilities Collide     ~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~ Tribute to a Selfie The Pawn       ~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~ *You really should consider adding your popular posts here too* Women write about sex shocker! All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy! Blogging My 20 of 2013 Hello 2014 Erotic Fiction Call Me Maybe To Watch… Holiday Travails The third message So You Want to Worship Me…Start Here. Three Stories Up Men in cages Lucky Mascot – Huddle: Sex With Sporty Queers Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships Sex Toys Storage: Hiding from People SexyLittleIdeas -11 Annoying yet Sexual Dares His PTSD Cheated on Me Cum You’re Art but I’m Not Anger and intimacy Among a Sea of Submissives Object My experiences with unwanted intercourse Erotic Non-Fiction Phoenix lies and gets herself in trouble The Storm... read more

Women write about sex shocker!

Is the notion of women’s agency over their sexuality still so other that we are shocked that women have an interest in and write about sex? This Telegraph article about erotic romance author Geraldine O-Hara has the headline “Writing about sex: The last thing you’d expect from this mother of five who knits” What is it that The Telegraph find surprising? Is it that she is a woman writing about sex? Is it that she is a mother? Is it that she knits?  The article in itself, written by Geraldine, talks about the stigma she felt as a writer and her fear of being judged harshly as a woman and a parent, sadly the headline written by the Telegraph only goes to reinforce the prejudice and attitudes that Geraldine writes of. I’m rather interested in any parenting tips Geraldine can pass my way as a mother of five to a mother of one, but that aside why shouldn’t a mother write about sex? Why is the number of her children relevant and so what if she knits? This headline is a car crash of assumptions about the roles of women and mothers and what they should or shouldn’t be doing to fill their time.  Why are mothers still not expected to express our sexuality or be interested in sex? I’ve had men on Twitter asking me not to talk about my daughter on my feed as they found it uncomfortable as I also talk about sex and sexuality, as if I can’t exist as a parent and a sexual person at the same time. I call bullshit. How do... read more

NEWS! I’m working with Velvet Books on a series of erotica anthologies

I’m so thrilled to let you all know that I’ve been approached by Velvet Books to work on a series of anthologies with them.   Last month I finally had time to make it up to London to meet with the team and thrash out the details and I have to say it is looking like a very exciting project.  I first met the team behind Velvet Books when they came to Eroticon 2013 and were delighted when they wanted to publish the conference anthology.  While the Velvet Team have a solid commercial, design and marketing presence they were in need of someone to hook them up with writers – perhaps they were a bit shy of all the brains behind the steaming hot erotica that is being written at the moment?  And so they asked me to be their front woman to kick start their anthologies collections. With the call for submissions for Eroticon 2013 anthology, Southbank Seduction, ending soon, and boy-oh-boy do we have some fantastic contributions already, it is time for another call for submissions, this time for the Raising the Curtain, an anthology of theatrical erotica! I love this theme, I trained as a dancer and there is something magical about being backstage – I’m sure it is a fertile ground for erotic inspiration! [hr]   Call for submissions : Raising the Curtain :  An anthology of erotica inspired by the theatre. What goes on behind the velvet curtains of the theatre?  Is there more drama backstage than onstage?  Does the sexual tension between the stars of the show get x-rated once the curtain drops... read more
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